Plus - creating space for your partner's errors, a guide to cosmic transitions, and more lessons in your inbox this week.
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The Fourth Monarch: A Journey Through Gender, Sex, and Spirituality
Words and image by Alaska Skye
"My transition has not been a journey of discovering myself. It has been an awakening to everything that kept me from myself."
"I have left the family of womanhood. I have done what I thought was required to don the clothes of boyhood. I have tried to find my place within what I was told made sense. I have swung the binary in my body, brain, and blood and been left with bitterness. The discomfort surrounds me as gentle violence in confused looks, hurried glances, unsure stumbles over names and pronouns, blatant judgements over the meanings of a flat chest, a pair of eyes rimmed in smoke and shimmer, a short cut being grown out. All of this an endless reminder that I will always be assumed. Demanded. I must prove it to you in ways you understand or it does not exist."
Learning To Prepare For The Menopause in Your 30's
Written by Milly D
Photo by Hazel Evans
"Having spoken to friends and family members experiencing menopause, it became apparent that there are many things we aren't aware of when reaching [menopause], as we simply don't talk about it enough."
"What I know is that I will never be a good enough Muslimah, feminist, or a life partner — not if I am doing [my] development for others. If I am going to be a slut for living on my own, or wearing acrylics, or wearing makeup, then so be it. If I am a being "too PC" because I don't find your homophobic or rape joke funny, then so be it. If I am being too "superficial" because I am creeped out by your germ-prone car, or do want to eat at that good restaurant or do want you paying the bill, then so be it. If I am unwilling to take you on as the "I was willing to change for you" project — then so be it. But am I still a bawse-ass bitch who is trying her best to be halal and ethical and a slut? Yes I am."
If Your Partner Incorrectly Uses Binary Labels For You, Here's What to Say
Written by Jo Altmaier
"It gives me this guilty feeling at the bottom of my stomach. Am I being a bad nonbinary person for joining apps that exclude us? If I select "Be shown to people looking for men" despite not being one, am I perpetuating that harmful stereotype that trans/nonbinary people are "deceptive" or "tricking" cis people? If someone looking for women matches with me, will they be disappointed to find that I am not one? Or will they try to categorize me as "basically a woman" for their own comfort?"
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